California Therapy for Recovering People-Pleasers
You care about your relationships, your family, & being a good person. Somewhere along the way, that can turn into overthinking everything, and feeling guilty for having boundaries.
Therapy for People-Pleasing, Relationships & Family Dynamics in California
There are a lot of ways to become really good at putting yourself second.
Being the easy kid. The responsible sibling. The friend who never asks for much. The partner who would rather say “it’s fine” than risk an argument. The first-gen daughter who learned pretty early that her decisions rarely feel like they belong to just her.
Eventually, you start wondering what you actually want when nobody else gets a vote.
That’s a pretty good thing to talk about in therapy.
We can talk about the people-pleasing, anxious attachment, boundaries, family stuff, relationship patterns, cultural expectations, and all the little things you’ve gotten very good at explaining away.
Not because we’re trying to turn you into someone who suddenly doesn’t care what anyone thinks. You can keep caring.
We’re just making sure you’re in the conversation too.
Hi, I’m Aji. I’m a Licensed Therapist in California.
And I’m not a sit-there-and-nod-for-50-minutes kind of therapist.
I like therapy to feel like an actual conversation. I’ll ask questions, notice patterns, remember the random thing you said three weeks ago, and tell you when I think we should look at something a little differently.
There’s room to be serious here without making everything serious.
We can talk about your family and laugh about your family in the same session. We can understand exactly why you became a people pleaser and also acknowledge that sending a seven-paragraph text to make absolutely certain nobody is mad at you is probably not bringing you peace.
You’re getting warmth, curiosity, honesty, validation, and an actual human on the other side of the conversation.
Individual Therapy for Adults in California
There are a few things I end up talking about a lot around here.
People-Pleasing
You’re everyone’s go-to person. We’ll work on making sure you’re not always the last person you consider.
Relationship Issues
Communication, conflict, trust, and those relationship patterns you’re very ready to stop repeating.
Anxious Attachment
Relationships can send your brain into overdrive. Let’s make them feel a little less consuming.
Family Dynamics
Family can be loving, complicated, frustrating, and important to you all at once. There’s room for all of it.
Boundaries
Setting a boundary is one thing. Feeling okay about it afterward is another. We can work on both.
First-Generation
Figuring out what you want to keep, what you want to change, and what actually feels like you.
Therapy That Makes Room for Culture & Family
“Just set a boundary” sounds simple until family, culture, loyalty, and a lifetime of expectations are involved. You can love your family, value where you come from, and still want to do some things differently.
Therapy gives us space to figure out what actually feels right for you, without pretending the people and relationships you care about don’t matter.
Private-Pay Therapy in California: Investment & Superbills
Let’s talk money because nobody enjoys having to hunt through an entire website to find the fee.
Initial session: $150
Ongoing 50-minute sessions: $150
My practice is private pay, which means I don’t bill insurance directly.
However, I do provide superbills for clients who want to use their out-of-network insurance benefits.
Online Therapy Throughout California + Limited In-Person Sessions
Therapy should fit into your actual life.
I offer virtual individual therapy to adults throughout California, so you can meet with me from home, your office with the door firmly shut, or wherever you can reliably get 50 minutes of privacy.
I also have limited in-person availability for clients who prefer being in the room together.
Either way, you’re getting the same me.
Ready to Start Therapy in California?
If you’re looking for a therapist who’s warm, conversational, and ready to get into the real-life messiness of relationships, family, boundaries, and being a person, I’d love to hear from you.
Reach out to learn more about working together and see if we’re a good fit.